Drinks that welcomed an Indian bride

I had a perfect arranged marriage, where we both were just dummies and parents finalized everything.Though telephonic conversation of  7 months, I didn't get to know anything much about him.

After marriage , on the way to their home, I felt very uneasy . Brought in a metropolitan city ,  I was familiar with lots of building and traffic, but here I was being taken deeper into a jungle. I can only see trees and hills . Very nervously I sat and just glanced at the stranger with me,my husband. He seemed least perturbed and showing no signs of emotions , sat chatting with his brother in law.

A fear gripped in my heart , where am I taken to . My cell was with my brother and I was alone with a complete bunch of strangers.

Nearing his house, I got a bit of relief , there were houses nearby and lot of people gathered to welcome me. 

I entered the house with the lamp ,as per our custom and walked toward the pooja room. Since it was old house , I had to walk along a dark corridor which leads to the pooja room. Keeping the lamp in front of diety, I looked in to room where I am going to stay.I was escorted in by his relatives after some time, they left . His sister asked me to close the room .Though I felt something fishy , I did as she told.

After sometime , i heard noises from the other room some men were invited to drink . Utter shocked I just sat still in bed , my eyes brimming with tears cursing my parents where the hell did  they send me. 

Coming from a very disciplined family , I never seen my family members drinking or smoking. I grew up with that notion that it not good in our Indian Culture.

After half an hour my hubby came in, looking at me he asked me what happened . I told nothing. I looked at him and enquired when my parents are coming. As a part of the culture , they have to visit the grooms house after sending their daughter.He said get ready they will reach now.

My mother entered the room and instantly knew I was disturbed. I took her aside and told they drink here. Grinning from ear to ear she told, they stay in the hills and its a part of their culture.

I stood staring at her not knowing what to say , I knew my journey in this new life will not be  a bed of roses.An entirely new way of culture was waiting to engulf me.

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Transformation from Daughter in law to an abandoned soul

As what happens in most of Indian families, hubby left for his gulf job within 20 days after we tied the knot.As by the custom ,I stayed back in his parents house.I behaved with them as I would have with my parents little realizing that I was inviting trouble.

We had gone to visit a relative who was keeping unwell.Brought up in metro city , I sat in the living room as usual .Father in law asked me to get up and sit with the other ladies in Kitchen.I got up and left.

After reaching home that night, he blasted me saying my parents hasn't brought me up properly.I have no manners , I am not behaving like a woman and all the crap.I have to take care of his wife .He kept on ordering me the list of duties that i should do.I just stared at him,thinking am I married of to a 16th century family.I silently heard all these,but I felt like asking why cant you accept the daughter in law as your daughter.

That incident gave a tremendous impact on my life,I started my first steps to isolate myself from the In-law folks.One incident lead to another ,now I rarely talk to them.

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Sambar a day can keep the hubby away

Rushing back from office I went to kitchen , was already late for the evening meals.I washed the dhal and kept for 2 whistles to fly by.Hurried with the veggies and thought to lie down for a while.That cost it ,slept about half an hour .

Result: A burnt dhal

Absent mindly , I put the veggies along with the powders,cooked the sambar. After tempering ,I laid the table for dinner.

Hubby and his friends started their dinner,the burnt smell gave a thumbs up for them to tease me .I waited for a while for them to be quiet.no avail ,that teasing lasted for 2 days, from home to office and even every occasion where am present.

Now the after effects of burnt sambar ,am so pissed with my hubby doesn't look eye to eye.

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FIrst impression is the best impression!!!

Every girl dreams of a peacefull married life and imagine when this turns upside down.My hopes came shattering down when I got the blasting from my father in law for sitting in the living room of a relative's house.In this 21st century , he says ladies are not allowed to sit there , place reserved for men.

I felt tears stinging at the back of my eyes, brought up in a very modern outlook ,this was intolerable.Pouring my heart to my hubby,I asked him why his father is behaving like this. Answer which I got was a deadly shock.What his father told was right,was the answer!!!!
I looked at the man standing next to me , wearing the branded shirt and a baggy jeans was a real village cougar.

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The Pregnant Illiterate Woman

My neighbour, Sangeetha is pregnant with her second child. She has nausea and vomiting.She sleeps for long and rarely sits on her bed too, all the while just sleeping.Due to this, consuming food was her last option.

She was 18 when she was carrying her first child.A weak and underdeveloped body of her's doctor had to administer so much medicines to save the child. God's grace she had a beautifull, healthy girl child, Ananya.

This time without eating needed food , doc has said she will have to abort the child if sangi remains unhealthy. We tried our level best to make her realise the importance of nutritious food for a growing baby in her womb.She is adamant on the fact that doc didn't prescribe medicines ,she is useless. She says the doc has to give injection , prescribe medicines for the baby ,nothing to do with food. She is questioning how did she carry on with her first pregnancy in India. We have lsot all hopes to make her come to her senses.

I used to read about the Asha workers going about teaching the pregnant ladies at villages, the importance of the nutritions.I never thought that was a big job ,now am realising the value of the last grade of Medical field's cumbersome efforts behind every healthy pregnancy in India.

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The idiot box ....missing from my life

I am a tv maniac and ends up hours in front of that........

My father used to comment when my daughter is tired of watching TV , she reads her books while the whole world does the other way .

Getting married , I thought much changes wont happen, I took life to be fully positive.

Entering the new marital home,my mother in law gave me a strict order not to watch TV with my father in law , HE DOESNT LIKE ITt. You will feel this to be weird , even I felt the same but that was the truth.he hated anyone watching TV with him. THE middle class ones, we cant afford another one.

After a yr TV less toil in laws house landed in Dubai and lo!!!! hubby told I will grow lazy if I watch tv.He was upbringing me while I thought I was married to him.He was my mentor not life partner.

Accepting this twist in tale ,I was happy when in his friends room they took cable.Ok now I can watch atleast an hour when am there.Suddenly they stopped watching TV during dinner time as its not good for health, and the most funniest thing is that I go to their house only at Dinner time since we dine together .

That sweet idiot box left my life in this 21st century.......Hope I was born in 10 th century bcos I am still living there.......

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Silent Life

He was disturbed for a reason that I dont know.Pacing up and down in his room,I felt like asking him was anything wrong.Guts didnt pile up for the same.I glanced at him and went away to the other room .

Half an hour latter , he pushed the door open and shouted TEA.

I got up and made one.Pestering him to talk ,I tried a few ways nothing worked .I went back to the other room.

My day ended with ending the tutitions of Shangi and retiring to bed.

Only 2 months left for 2nd wedding anniversary,we have grown far apart. I had read these lines somewhere
"What mystery is this that we are living
Parallel lives
Two train tracks that never meet"

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What is wrong with my hubby

After my birthday bash I was lounging in the sofa when my friend told me to accompany her for her daughters PTA meeting to be held on the next day. She was speaking in telugu ,my hus cant understand that language hopefully I know.I translated that to him and he told fine and I nodded an yes to her.

He was his usual self after she left and waving to me happily ,he left for his office the next day while I left with my friend to the school.
Returning back I went with her to meet a guy ,our mutual friend.His daughter was getting married and he wanted to purchase gold .

The friend called up both our hubby's and they gave green signal to help him in his purchase.

Evening I returned home to find my hubby sitting with a long face and I sat wondering why??????????
After a lot of pestering,He started screaming his throat out saying I go where ever I want and he is fed up with that.

Can you help me out , how to deal with this man

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